This is a real psychological issue right here. Besides being lovesick and drowned in painful memories about your ex, there’s a full-on psychological need for your ex to come back deep down in yourself. And it will take some time to heal and get rid of it. But that is not the address here. Have you ever felt like your previous other half is going to come back someday? Maybe you feel it in your guts that they will come back even though on the surface of your thoughts you almost do not believe yourself. But after reading this you will be clear of all those doubts. If your ex shows the following signs, there is a very high tendency for them to return eventually. Here are 07 Signs that your Ex will come back.
Positive here? Signs that your Ex will come back.
Relationships end on different notes. Most of them end with huge fights and drastic damages done to one party or each other. Some relationships leave people mentally drained and some even financially drained. This is more serious than it is considered in society. Actually, the attention given to breakups is scarce when compared with the amount of significance it should be given. Breakups have the potential to change people’s lives as we know it, both positively and negatively. Love is a bond, it is chemistry, it is psychology and to quote Selena Gomez, “The heart wants what it wants”. You almost have no say in it. And people are always different from one another. Not everyone has the strength to endure a breakup. Even the strongest are sometimes weakened to death by breakups. Emotions are unpredictable.
So, be alert for these signs in your ex. They will most likely return to you, one day.
01. “It was a mistake, (darling)”.
Be open to your ex admitting it. They will come up to you and straightforwardly that the breakup was a mistake. Or else they will somehow casually mention it. It is the #1 sign that your ex is thinking of coming back to you.
Their regret will be obvious and clearly visible. Even though they might not ask you directly whether they can come back (some might, actually) if they show notions of regret and remorse, they will come back. At least they are planning to come back. This might happen not only right after the breakup but also after months or even years.
It is another question whether you are ready to accept them back or not. But them showing this kind of behavior is predicting their comeback.
02. But both of us actually enjoyed the relationship.
Fights and struggling is quite common to relationships. But if there are no fights, that does not mean something wrong with the partners. It is actually good if there are no fights. But despite the occasional fighting. If you guys were happy together there is a high chance of your ex coming back.
If you two had a healthy and fun connection between one another and broke up probably because of an abrupt fight (not one based on bottled up anger) your partner will most definitely reconsider quite quickly. It has a strong base in the memories both of you made together. As long as they are mostly positive, lovely, and homely, you are on the safe side. For couples who were open with one another and comfortable around each other, there is a very low chance of breaking up and a greater chance of returning to the relationship after a breakup. Just wait.
“I just broke up with her. She’s already with another man!” Did you ever complain about your ex like that? You might be confused and even more heartbroken about your partner’s behavior in a situation like this. But don’t be. This might actually be a sign of your ex coming back.
Research shows that people try to find another partner soon after they end the relationship with the previous partner in order to fill the hole they’ve created in their lives. To fill the void created with the breakup. And the relief and the sensation they get in instances like this is quite temporary. In most cases, they end up feeling that they were better off with you and that there is no point in finding a replacement for you when they can actually come back to you. So, this is just psychology and human needs in play. No need to feel offended or heartbroken in such situations. You might have actually seen how to rebound relationships hit rock bottom very quickly and then partners returning to the original relationships in movies and books. You might have thought that it only happens in fiction. But no, it happens in real life as well. You just have to, like always, wait.
04. “I want to stay friends (but subtly more than that)”
When people tend to want to still stay friends and keep contact on a daily basis, you might actually be getting signs that your ex wants to be actually together. They keep texting you. They keep sending you pictures of their outfits. Tends to talk about life like you used to. Trying to be less awkward, but the conversations are nevertheless awkward. When going down that road, sometimes it will come to a point where your ex actually suggests coming back together. But this might not be the case always. Some will continue to drop hints instead of talking directly.
Some exes try to still be an influence on their partner’s life. They prevent them from getting into a new relationship. Will continue to ask personal questions and also share their personal information with you as well. Sometimes they try to seek consolation from you. They will even talk about how much they regret breaking up with you. It is your chance to make a move if you really want to be back with your ex. If they keep showing these signs, go on. Ask them whether they want to get back, but not in a desperate way. Do it as you see fit. And if the partner rejects again, yet continues to act the same way, think twice and make a decision.
05. “He asked Tom about how I was doing.”
Be alert to your friends. See whether your ex asks your friends about you. If you find out that they do, that might be an initial sign of them coming back to you. At least approaching you again. It means that your ex is still interested in your life. Some people specifically want to know whether you are hurting after the breakup or whether you are in a new relationship. They simply want to know whether you are doing okay but they are afraid to ask you directly. Instead, they approach your friends first. This is common if both of you are associated with the same group of friends. If they are not directly approaching you, it might also be out of guilt that the breakup was their fault and that they never really intended it.
06. Memories hurt the most
This is also quite common if both the partners decide to stay friends even though the breakup was really bad. Your ex will tend to have conversations with you about the relationship you had. Both good and bad memories from it. They will try to keep you engaged in conversations as such and ask your opinion on it. And even continuously question you on whether you miss the relationship you had or not. Take these signs. Your ex probably wants to get back together.
07. Here comes the real question
Your ex will drop a thousand hints to make you ask them out again freshly or just get back together. Or they might directly suggest it without beating around the bush. But no matter what, you need to decide whether it is healthy for you to go back to your relationship or not. It is true that it is hard to bear the pain of leaving a person who you loved even for a single day. And it is also highly probable that you will get back to the relationship the first chance you get. But it is not as easy as that. What if you were in a real toxic relationship? And what if your ex is trying to get an advantage and manipulate you into the relationship because she is deprived of something materialistic you had in your relationship? There is always that risk. But let’s hope it does not get that bad.
Reconsider every single time. Reconsider when you enter into a relationship, if possible. Try to make ends meet when you are on the verge of a breakup. See whether you can make a commitment to keep the relationship intact which does not involve you throwing your hopes, dreams, and attitude away. Reconsider before getting back into the same relationship which you just broke. Reconsider before getting into a new relationship just after breaking up with someone, because even you might be the problem. These are the Signs that your Ex will come back.
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